When I had my daughter 8 years ago I didn’t think about how life will change so much, we adapt, we change, we move. Apart from some things that we took for granted before may now feel like a treat. For example a bath without a child knocking on the door, a wee without an audience….There are so many more to add but today I want to talk about implementing some self care.
I started this blog as a way to track my own self care journey. Self care for me isn’t just about a long bath or some make up it’s about my mental and physical health, it’s about learning to breathe and not be drawn back into anxiety.
I signed up to a life coaching/nutritional group and that helps me focus on me. It gave me a start but I wanted to delve deeper too. I took a life coaching course which helped me track my changes and successes, then signed up to the next step. It made me think about how I could help others and it gave me a purpose too. My first step for self care was to step away from so many hours procrastinating and over producing for my clients and learn how to plan efficiently so I would always have a daily hour for me.
So what do I do in this hour? Well that changes depending on how I feel but I was surprised that with a little bit of organisation I could fit that amount of time in when I didn’t feel like I could take 5 minutes for me before!
I organise – on a Sunday I organise my plan for the following week. This includes client work, blog work and gradually a meal plan too. By being more organised in other parts of my life it gave me time to breathe and relax.
I step away – it can be so easy to get drawn into social media and scrolling. I still find it difficult to step away (especially as my business is working around the children in half term) but it is a work in progress. I know if I spend too much time blankly scrolling then I miss out on other stuff.
I learn – I started with a life coaching course and have now signed up to an NLP course for life coaches, writing your happiness story course and a mindfulness practitioner course. I tend to grab them when they have special offers on but for me knowing I have the next course lined up in an area I enjoy keeps me focussed on the end result – being a life coach and counsellor to new mums that specialises in birth trauma.
I read – reading and imagination is an essential part of living. I used to read a book a day and that slipped drastically since having kids. Making sure I use 15-30 minutes at least to read everyday really is good for the soul. It sets a great example to the kids too!
I breathe – I put music on, sit and listen. Music and dance is a huge stress relief and one thing you can share with the kids too. Yoga is also a great opportunity to place self care into not only your own space but the kids space too. My boys have both had yoga class at nursery and I think starting this with them now can only be a good thing for their own mental health as they grow up.
So could you fit any of these things into your daily life to make you feel better?
So I suppose this is me starting this blog over. I hope that you stay with me on the journey. You can find me using the #selfcarewithkids and #dailylifeedit tags over on Instagram for daily updates.