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How My Second C-Section Was A Healing Experience

This month is ​#c​ aesareanawarenessmonth​. As a mother of 3 children born via caesarean I do think it is so important we open up more discussion around what a caesarean can be like as well, as what to consider when having one. After all a caesarean doesn’t just happen – there is a lot surrounding the needs of both mum and baby which leads to this important birth option.

All of my births were by emergency caesarean, two were booked as planned sections but both boys decided to make an earlier appearance. I laboured with all of the children, but the transition of events with all of them meant that I could not deliver vaginally.

Out of all of my caesareans number two will always be my favourite and I’ll be honest the most fun too. My first birth was very traumatic and it made me so anxious to think of reliving that experience with number 2. A section was planned for 39 weeks and although my baby boy and I had various admissions to hospital, a calm and collected birth still happened.

I do think the element of planning did help me. I’d planned a home birth with baby 1 and so the idea of a caesarean never entered my mind until being told it was a must during her labour.

With baby 2 I was able to choose a play list with Gav and Fizz (my daughter then 4) adding songs they liked. Entering the surgical theatre wasn’t a blur, and I remember the team introducing themselves and wondering if we had to. The procedure wasn’t rushed at all and the team around me sang along to our chosen playlist and talked to Gav about music. It felt so relaxed like it could be an at home experience (minus the epidural/drugs and surgery of course).

I think after having such a shock to the system once, you know what you would change and how you react. I’m not very good during labour – I scream, I panic and the baby always seems to get stuck. With an element of preparation and some Hypobirthing CDs before the main event I was able to stay calm and focus a lot more.

Being so aware of what could happen, and having some comforts of my own meant his birth (4 weeks early) wasn’t so scary after all and also that with a few tweaks here and there I didn’t have to be afraid again.

Yes it is major surgery (and one that is not always easy to recover from), yes an emergency can be rushed (and it’s about mum and baby happy and healthy first), but like any birth experience it can be enjoyable too.